How I am Handling Sundays, or S'Mondays
Has this ever happened to you: getting more stressed and anxious on a Sunday night because you're not looking forward to the week ahead?
They say it happens when you work at a job you dislike. I agree, and I would also like to add that it can happen to anyone, especially the perfectionist type like myself.
The truth is, no matter what, I'd always experience some level of anxiety or stress on a Sunday because I'm a person who cannot let go of what I could have or should have "done right" or better throughout the weekend or the past week.
I hadn't realized that S'Mondays was a real thing that psychologists are talking about.
And this S'Monday is hitting me pretty hard. The week ahead is not a pretty one and there will be several days when I have to come home after 8:00 PM.
You may be thinking, "what's the big deal?"
For me (and perhaps for you) it is a big deal. It can become a big deal when you need to rest, not just physically but mentally, from the day. This is a big deal when you have responsibilities to take care of in your own home because you'd rather not spend the next weekend frantically grocery shopping and getting things in order because you didn't have time to do it throughout the week.
And when I have a week like this (although in my profession this sort of thing happens frequently) it's easy to become resentful and it's easy to spend your precious energy focusing on the negatives.
Do you have the right to be upset when your job demands that you're there 12 hours of the day? Yes. Should you use that right? Not always.
I'm coming up with a better way of handling S'Mondays: I don't think about work.
Be honest: does it really, really matter if you don't get that one thing accomplished today? If you really were honest with yourself, couldn't that paperwork or lesson plan actually be completed during the workweek?
I've found that one way to eliminate stress is to find the hidden minutes of my workday. I refuse to do work at home because I know that even if it means that I need to show up 10 minutes earlier to have some focused time, whatever task I have to do will get chipped away at throughout the week. If I'm intentional enough, it will happen.
I accept that this is what's going to happen. I accept that this week is coming up and there may be others like it, though thankfully, not consecutively. So how can I take care of myself? I think of it like a game: when I bring a healthy snack, or I leave home that morning having gotten in my workout or completed my chores--those are points for me. If I'm going to have this tough week, then at least I should be prepared for it. I'm looking forward to it, but I accept it and will plan for it.
This weekend, when it's all over, I give myself permission to have some serious fun. I don't always do that because in the back of my mind there's the temptation to do some work. For me, I'm always working on my coaching business. But what if I took a small break from that and just had fun? It gives me something to look forward to at the end of the week.
We can't escape bad weeks, and accepting them for now does not mean that you agree with having a chaotic schedule imposed on you. However, there's something to be said for being organized and prepared (physically and mentally): it shows that whatever is coming your way does not have control--you do.