Trying to Be Positive in a Negative World
My need to be informed is in direct conflict with my need to be sane, and at this moment I am trying to be positive in a negative world.
There is so much going on that I continuously ask myself: am I hiding from "bad news" or am I simply trying to save my sanity so that I can continue supporting, helping, and inspiring others?
If I were to be honest, I think it's a mix of both. As for many Americans, this year has been one of frustration, anger, confusion, and shock. I won't deny that. It's been a year in which I've had to be especially tolerant of friends and family who hold differing political views. And, sadly, I know that it won't end any time soon. I know that for a long time, my Facebook feed will buzz with the latest outrage--that's just the world in which I live.
So here's the dilemma: on the one hand, it is my duty as a citizen to remain informed and take action on some level; on the other hand, I owe it to myself to live this life that I have to its fullest and with a sense of grace, creativity, and vitality. Constant negativity dampens creativity and vitality.
If this world is so bad, why am I still here? I'm not being flippant; it's just that when I think about the times that I have been driven to transformative action, it's been done through the power of inspiration and positivity.
And still, it is dififficult to talk like this in a day and age where so many are personally attacked and affected, but I will not be moved by fear. I will be moved by love; I will be moved by the knowledge that what I do for the next person I encounter is exactly what I am meant to do.
You see, some of this negativity makes me feel powerless, and powerlessness is the opposite of what I try to cultivate in myself and in the people whom I coach on a monthly basis. I truly believe that we can transform ourselves and the world around us.
So how am I trying to deal with negativity? How am I solving it?
First, I empathize with it all and I acknowledge the importance of all issues. I also honestly ask myself this question: "how much control do I have?"
Some things I can control about what happens in our world, but some things I cannot. Thus, I am led to another vital question: if I cannot control everything, what are the things in my own world that I can control?
And that's where I come in as a fitness coach; something that seems completely unrelated to politics or the ills of society. How can helping someone complete P90X, take Zumba, or meal prep. ever help?
It's because I believe that unhappy people make others unhappy. I believe that unhappy people aren't healthy. I believe that fitness is so much more than weight and body statistics: it's a lifestyle that allows a person to send a love letter to themselves; it's permission for someone to be brave; and for some, it's permission to love and accept themselves again.
So back to the original question: how am I trying to be positive in a negative world? I deal with it by watching the world around me and actively aligning my core beliefs as a human being with the career path I have chosen.
No, I don't need to be informed all the time; I know what is happening. I do, however, need to focus on who I can help today so that person becomes a better version of themselves.